MARRIAGE TENSION AMONG YOUTHS.

Written by John on June 4, 2025

The issue of marriage planning among young people, has become a huge challenge amongst young people, it has become a huge problem when it reaches a time when one feels ready to have someone that he could tie knots with. Many take the previous relationships as lessons that might influence their ideologies and perceptions about their current partners. You will hear someone saying “men cannot be trusted” and others “women are cheaters” and so on.

The weight of expectation hung heavy in the air, a familiar burden for anyone navigating the treacherous waters of modern relationships. For many young people, the idea of marriage had transformed from a romantic ideal into a source of anxiety, a daunting milestone fraught with uncertainty. The stories of failed unions, the whispers of discontent, and the pressure to find “the one” had created a climate of fear, leading some to question the very institution itself.

Akinyi, a bright eyed woman, with great ambitions in her late twenties, found herself caught in this whirlwind of doubt. Growing up, she had envisioned a fairytale wedding, a life filled with love, laughter, and a partner by her side. However, as she entered adulthood, her perspective shifted. This seemed like what they say that things in the ground are far different from the theory, in other words, different from the way people might think they are in real world.

The carefully curated images of perfect families on social media clashed with the realities she witnessed around her. Friends divorced, marriages crumbled, and the promise of “happily ever after” seemed increasingly a dream that would never come to pass. Akinyi began to question whether she was cut out for marriage. The fear of making the wrong choice, of ending up in a loveless or unhappy relationship, gnawed at her. She valued her independence, her career, and the freedom to make her own decisions. The thought of sacrificing these things for the sake of a relationship filled her with apprehension.

Across town, Siso, a young man with a thoughtful demeanor, grappled with similar concerns. He had always believed in the sanctity of marriage, but the world around him challenged his beliefs. He saw the financial strain, the emotional toll, and the societal pressures that often suffocated relationships.

Siso longed for a deep connection, a partner to share his life with, but he wasn’t willing to settle for anything less than genuine love and understanding. The fear of loneliness and the desire for companionship pulled him in one direction, while the fear of commitment and the desire for freedom pulled him in another. He felt torn between two conflicting desires, unsure of which path to take.

As Akinyi and Siso navigated their respective journeys, they encountered others who shared their fears and uncertainties. They formed a community of like-minded individuals, sharing stories, offering support, and challenging the traditional notions of marriage. Some chose to remain single, embracing the freedom and independence that came with it. Others opted for long-term partnerships without the legal binding of marriage. Still, others cautiously explored the possibility of marriage, seeking to redefine it on their own terms.

The path to marriage, once a straightforward journey, had become a complex maze, filled with twists, turns, and dead ends. For young people like Akinyi and Siso, the search for the right person was no longer just about finding a partner; it was about finding themselves. It was about defining their own values, setting their own expectations, and creating a life that aligned with their individual desires. The future of marriage, they realized, would be shaped by their generation’s willingness to question, to adapt, and to redefine what it truly means to love and commit in the modern world.

Young people should not be in a hurry to choose a marriage partner before they even know themselves better. They should get to understand what they want before engaging in marriage. They should also seek guidance from those who have been in successful marriages so that the understand the magnitude of the act of marriage and what needs to be done, they should learn to understand their partners and if need be, they should be ready to shift their mindset so that they can fit in with each other.

If the ideology and perception about marriage that has been brought about by what people have seen from broken marriages is not shifted, then most of the young people will prefer not getting married or many cases of same gender marriage will emerge at a high percentage.

BY: BONFACE SISO.